Divorce Counseling in San Diego, Oceanside and Encinitas
You are not alone. Divorce can be a tough journey, but seeking counseling can be a helpful and supportive way to navigate through it. Our San Diego therapists can provide a safe space for you to express your emotions, explore the impact of the divorce on your life, and develop coping strategies.
It's a bit like having a guide through uncharted territory--Divorce counseling can be a vital resource for individuals and families going through the challenging process of divorce. It provides emotional support, improves communication, and helps in creating a healthier environment for all parties involved. Whether through individual therapy, couples counseling, or family sessions, the goal is to navigate the complexities of divorce in a way that promotes healing and growth.
Purpose of Divorce Counseling
- Emotional Support: Divorce can be an emotionally turbulent time, filled with feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, and anxiety. Counseling provides a safe space to express these emotions and work through them.
- Conflict Resolution: For couples, counseling can help manage and reduce conflicts, facilitating a more amicable separation. This is particularly important when children are involved.
- Co-Parenting Strategies: Counselors can assist parents in developing effective co-parenting plans, ensuring that the children's needs are prioritized and reducing the emotional impact on them.
- Adjustment and Transition: Counseling helps individuals adjust to their new life circumstances, build resilience, and develop strategies for moving forward.
- Communication Skills: Improving communication skills can help in dealing with ex-partners, family members, and children, making the transition smoother for everyone involved.
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Healing Resources for Divorce Counseling
Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce by Emily Doskow, Attorney
( A compassionate guide through all the stages of separation and divorce)
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher, ED.D
(A step-by-step processing of the emotional distress caused by divorce)
Divorce Poison by Richard A. Warshak
(For parent's who are involved in a hostile divorce)
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When A Partner has been unfaithful.
How Can I Forgive You by Janis Abrahms Spring
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way by Gary M. Neuman
Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child by Isolina Ricci,
( A compassionate guide through all the stages of separation and divorce)
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher, ED.D
(A step-by-step processing of the emotional distress caused by divorce)
Divorce Poison by Richard A. Warshak
(For parent's who are involved in a hostile divorce)
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When A Partner has been unfaithful.
How Can I Forgive You by Janis Abrahms Spring
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way by Gary M. Neuman
Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child by Isolina Ricci,
California Basics
If you’re a California resident getting ready to file for divorce in the Golden State, here’s the lowdown on the basics of the laws.
Residency Requirement
Before you can file in California, at least one spouse must be a resident of the state for six months or 180 days. Once you’ve filed the divorce and delivered the paperwork to your spouse, you must wait at least six months from the date your spouse received the papers before it can be finalized.
No Common Law Marriage
There’s no common law marriage in California—you aren’t married unless you obtained a marriage license and entered into a legal relationship, and you can’t get a legal divorce unless you were legally married. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve lived together or whether one of you took the other’s name.
Grounds for Divorce
California is a no-fault state, which means that you won’t argue for a divorce based on the other person’s wrongdoing. Most often, the basis is “irreconcilable differences” that have caused the marriage to break down. Fault isn’t entirely irrelevant, though—if your spouse abandoned the family, committed adultery, or was violent, the court may consider those facts in dividing property or awarding alimony.
Property Division
California is one of only a handful of states that use a community property system, meaning that all of the property and debts that you acquired during your marriage are shared equally between the two of you at divorce. That includes income of all kinds, savings from income, property, and anything else that you own. However, it doesn’t include either spouse’s separate property, which includes inheritances, gifts, and property that the spouse owned before the marriage, as long as the separate property wasn’t mixed up with the marital property.
Child Custody
California courts begin with a presumption that it’s best for a child to have frequent and continuing contact with both parents after a divorce. If possible, judges want to support joint custody arrangements. However, the details of the parenting plan will be determined by the children’s best interests. If parents can agree on a parenting plan, the court will usually approve it. If you’re not able to agree, you’ll be ordered to attend mediation sessions, and if that doesn’t work, the court will take over and the judge will decide how you’ll share time with your children.
Child Support
Like all states, California requires parents to support their children, even after a divorce. The amount of child support depends primarily on each parent’s income and other resources, and how much time each parent spends with the children. Sometimes the courts will “impute” income to a parent who has the capacity to earn more than he or she actually is earning.
Same-Sex Marriage and Divorce
Same-sex marriage isn’t legal in California now, but it was for a short period in 2008, and California also offers domestic partnership registration for same-sex couples. Any same-sex couple who registered or married in California at any time can get divorced in California, even if they don’t live in the state any more.
Resources
The California Judicial Council provides a great deal of information on its website at www.courts.ca.gov. You can get fill-in-the-blank forms and instructions there; you can also get the forms you need at your local courthouse or the local law library. Your county probably has information on its website about your local courts and divorce procedures.
Information drawn from www.nolo.com (for further information visit their website)
Before you can file in California, at least one spouse must be a resident of the state for six months or 180 days. Once you’ve filed the divorce and delivered the paperwork to your spouse, you must wait at least six months from the date your spouse received the papers before it can be finalized.
No Common Law Marriage
There’s no common law marriage in California—you aren’t married unless you obtained a marriage license and entered into a legal relationship, and you can’t get a legal divorce unless you were legally married. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve lived together or whether one of you took the other’s name.
Grounds for Divorce
California is a no-fault state, which means that you won’t argue for a divorce based on the other person’s wrongdoing. Most often, the basis is “irreconcilable differences” that have caused the marriage to break down. Fault isn’t entirely irrelevant, though—if your spouse abandoned the family, committed adultery, or was violent, the court may consider those facts in dividing property or awarding alimony.
Property Division
California is one of only a handful of states that use a community property system, meaning that all of the property and debts that you acquired during your marriage are shared equally between the two of you at divorce. That includes income of all kinds, savings from income, property, and anything else that you own. However, it doesn’t include either spouse’s separate property, which includes inheritances, gifts, and property that the spouse owned before the marriage, as long as the separate property wasn’t mixed up with the marital property.
Child Custody
California courts begin with a presumption that it’s best for a child to have frequent and continuing contact with both parents after a divorce. If possible, judges want to support joint custody arrangements. However, the details of the parenting plan will be determined by the children’s best interests. If parents can agree on a parenting plan, the court will usually approve it. If you’re not able to agree, you’ll be ordered to attend mediation sessions, and if that doesn’t work, the court will take over and the judge will decide how you’ll share time with your children.
Child Support
Like all states, California requires parents to support their children, even after a divorce. The amount of child support depends primarily on each parent’s income and other resources, and how much time each parent spends with the children. Sometimes the courts will “impute” income to a parent who has the capacity to earn more than he or she actually is earning.
Same-Sex Marriage and Divorce
Same-sex marriage isn’t legal in California now, but it was for a short period in 2008, and California also offers domestic partnership registration for same-sex couples. Any same-sex couple who registered or married in California at any time can get divorced in California, even if they don’t live in the state any more.
Resources
The California Judicial Council provides a great deal of information on its website at www.courts.ca.gov. You can get fill-in-the-blank forms and instructions there; you can also get the forms you need at your local courthouse or the local law library. Your county probably has information on its website about your local courts and divorce procedures.
Information drawn from www.nolo.com (for further information visit their website)
